Online Dating Doesn’t Work for Most of us. Here’s Why.
Online Dating Apps Don’t Work For Most of Us. Here’s Why.
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Bumble tips for men over 35
If you've just come out of a long-term relationship, there are some things you might want to know about the app that most women love.
- Angela Serednicki
- May 8, 2020
Age is just a number, but there’s no doubt that dating becomes a whole other ball game once you’ve reached your mid-thirties.
Especially if you’re just coming out of a long-term relationship. This makes dating after a certain age and point in life, particularly freeing: you know who you are and the type of person and relationship you’re looking for, whether it’s just a potential date or future mate.
At this stage in your life, you’re confident in the positive qualities you possess that will make you an extraordinary partner to that future someone special. Now it’s just time to meet your perfect match.
Before you start swiping, get things set up for success
Creating your Bumble account is seemingly straightforward. But it takes a fair bit of time to set up your online dating profile so that you attract the matches you’re looking for. This popular app is liked by both women and men.
If you want to stand out, you’ll need to put the extra effort into showing up as your best self.
Our coaches at Shift Dating suggest following these six tips to help get you started.
At this stage in your life, you’re confident in the positive qualities you possess that will make you an extraordinary partner to that future someone special... now it’s just time to meet your perfect match!
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Online dating can be frustrating and time consuming, with limited if any results. Or maybe you just don’t know where to start.
1. Show them who’s boss
First impressions are always important, but even more so when you’re on a dating app where users are swiping left and right every few seconds. That profile picture really matters! It’s your only opportunity to make a memorable first impression. Low-res selfies you may have used in the past just aren’t going to cut it anymore.
We know it can be hard when the years haven’t been so great to some of your key assets. But there are ways to work with the pictures that you do have. Sometimes just being a little self-deprecating with a touch of whit, can make all the difference. And stay away from pictures that aren’t representative of who you are today.
“If the picture is bad, you’ve just been left-swiped. People don’t even give the person a chance,” Toronto entrepreneur Andy Hoang told the CBC. It’s why he’s among the growing number of people who are opting to hire professional photographers for their online dating profiles.
The three must-haves for the perfect profile picture include pictures that:
- Show off your smile
- Let’s see your eyes (no sunglasses please)
- We want your entire face (no Snapchat filters, please).
A professional photographer knows how to make you feel comfortable and you’ll leave your shoot with high-res photos that capture your personality and most flattering angles in a relaxed environment.
The Shift Dating Staff Photographers always suggest having at least one or two professional photos. It will make a huge difference in your online dating success. It will show potential matches that you’re keen and that you’ve made an effort. Most importantly, they’ll see you as the attractive and sophisticated guy you are.
2. Keep the highlights real
This little yellow app can upload a total of up to six photos. And since a picture is worth a thousand words, it’s important to make sure your photos tell the story of the real you.
Now that your new profile picture taken by a professional photographer has got you feeling like the next James Bond. It’s time to add a few more photos that will seal the deal for that coveted right-swipe.
If you’ve got a few laidback photos where you’re chilling in a hoodie or in your swim trunks at a summer bonfire. Make sure you balance those out with another shot of you wearing your favourite suit from the latest wedding you’ve attended.
Women want to see the different parts of your life and sneak peeks into your personality in this highlight reel. Keep things simple for future matches by avoiding big group shots where it might be hard to see who you are or skip out on any photos with the opposite sex (yes, even if she’s your sister).
3. Verify your Bumble account
Safety and security are always at the forefront of online daters’ minds. Help future matches feel more comfortable swiping right and meeting up for that first date by verifying your Bumble account. This is an important little blue checkmark for your profile.
Bumble Photo Verification protects its users with cat-fishing catching technology.
Here’s how to get that all important blue checkmark:
- Tap the verify button in your profile.
- Then be prompted to take a selfie using one of a hundred random poses by Bumble.
- Once you take your photo mimicking that pose, use the step-by-step process in the app to send it to the Bumble administrators.
It only takes a few minutes to get confirmed that you’re a go.
When you’re verified on Bumble, your match may feel more comfortable to move things off the app and say yes to your first date.
The team at Shift Dating always recommends taking care of this before you being working with the app.
For every laidback photo where you’re chilling in a hoodie and swim trunks at a summer bonfire, balance it out with another shot of you wearing your favourite suit from the latest wedding you’ve attended
4. Build off of the Bumble prompts
Some of the built in prompts make it easy for its users to showcase their personalities, interests, and what they’re looking for.
But if you really want to stand out –you need to make an effort! Put in the time. It’s worth it.
At Shift Dating, we work with you to ensure that the selection of prompts you choose to add to your profile. We’ll be there to help attract the type of singles you want to meet.
Our team has rounded up a few of the best Bumble profile prompts you can start building off of. Switch things up so that you can stand out from the general public.
- Two truths and a lie…
- We’ll get along if…
- If I could only have three things on a deserted island, they’d be…
- My perfect Sunday…
- I’m most grateful for…
- My third grade teacher described me as…
Our recommendation is that you should always take the time to stand out of the crowd with your own, unique prompts. The roll of the eyes, the ‘oh please’ and the goodbye swipe happen more than you think. Don’t fall into that trap yourself.
If you need to take a minute to compose something thoughtful, then take that minute.
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5. Tell us more with badges
By the time you’re 35, chances are you’ve already developed a career and lifestyle that gives you a clear picture of what you want your future to hold. In your mid-thirties, you’re already aware of the must-haves and deal-breakers that you would like in a significant other.
A big part of dating at this age is finding a partner that shares and compliments the same lifestyle choices, habits, and perspectives as you do.
Bumble badges allow you to add more personalized details about yourself in your profile without having to use the character count in your bio. Badge examples include everything from what you’re looking for on Bumble (such as “I don’t know yet” to “something casual” or even a relationship or marriage) to the frequency of how much you exercise.
Other examples include your education level, your religion, your political perspective, and whether you have a pet or are a parent. Badges make it easier to filter out similarities between potential matches and you can skip putting on any badge if you don’t feel comfortable sharing that information.
Prompts by Bumble can be helpful if you're running out of ideas to get a conversation started, but we don't recommend using them too much. Shows lack of creativity.
6. Get a second professional opinion
As much as your friends and family would love to help you set up your Bumble profile and explore potential matches, the fact is that online dating is very personal.
Sometimes, your loved ones’ opinions and biases can cloud your better judgment into how you want to set up your profile and the people they want you to date.
Working closely with a professional dating coach will ensure your profiles are set up to take advantage of the Bumble algorithm.
All this online dating can be very time consuming. And it can get complicated. But Shift Dating is here to help you meet higher quality matches and take the stress out of modern dating.
Book your free phone consultation with one of our dating professionals now. After all, isn’t it time you got in front of the online dating game.
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